Emotional maturity and Altruism

In the advanced stages of the planetary initiation process, an initiate simply cannot properly handle the intensity of the agony and ecstasy of the experience unless they have mastered and matured emotionally and mentally. Theoretically, this maturation process would have occurred gradually over their current life as well as previous lives. With the recent acceleration of the initiation process, initiates have had to quickly move through this maturation process, and this has been challenging and incomplete as their higher spiritual bodies are generally much more developed and mature than their lower emotional and mental bodies. Many high level initiates, with great spiritual gifts and knowledge, are acting out childish behaviour which is hindering their ability to uncover their authentic self and be of greatest service.  

Everything is energy and energy vibrates and varies by its frequency of vibration. The physical-etheric, emotional, mental, buddhic, atmic, monadic and logoic are the names of each of the bodies of our seven-body system that spirit inhabits. These bodies are each distinctly different in their frequencies. Just as light spectrum has seven main ‘colours’ we can distinguish with our physical eyes, the colours are really just gradations in frequency. Similarly each body has a unique function and energy or vibrational signature, and function. Our physical-etheric body experiences physical sensation, our emotional body emotes the range of human emotions and our mental body thinks, decides and discriminates. The lower mind engages when inspiration is received and thinks up strategies as to how the inspiration can be implemented and expressed.  When not engaged for this purpose, the lower mind ought to rest and be still and pure in service to the knowing of spirit. For most people, this requires training in order to remove the addiction to unnecessary thinking.

Thoughts are things. Thoughts stimulate emotions. Emotions and feelings however, are not the same thing. Feelings include emotions but also include our thoughts and physical-etheric sensations and more. Feeling is a higher sense perspective where one is aware of all the activity occurring in their bodies. Feeling puts one in touch with the indwelling spirit. Feeling is sensing how things are in each of the bodies simultaneously without getting sucked into identifying with the experience of only one or two bodies. It has been said that our feelings are the eyes of our hearts. These feelings include the realm of our buddhic body and are an expression of the soul. The buddhic body is a higher frequency processor of emotions. It becomes the matured vehicle for emotions once the emotional body no longer runs fear-based, separatist, survival-based patterns.

To mature emotionally we must, as a soul and as spirit, fully feel and then release all that does not serve our expression of greater will. So, our aim is to feel as we feel and not judge any feelings. For example, if we try not to feel ‘guilty’ we put a lot of energy into not feeling 'guilty'. We use a lot of energy to push the energy of 'guilt' away. But by focusing on the reverse of an idea we actually energise the guilt and feel guiltier. This energy is either pressed out into our mental or emotional bodies or repressed into the cells of the physical body. Both create disharmony and imbalance. Alternatively, we can allow and acknowledge any feeling, be grateful for the opportunity it presents for greater self-awareness and then re-choose in accordance with the truth of the God within, our authentic self, and release the displaced energy to restore harmony.

Many of our life experiences have impacted us, wounded us and left scars in our emotional body. Some have caused us to recoil and retreat within to feel safe. It is rare for people to not have some emotional dysfunction or immaturity that can manifest as victim consciousness. As we release these impacts, hurts or pains, from our inner child’s experiences, we will move forward and cease going around in circles. When our inner child grows up and we become emotionally mature,
we can simply be authentic and embrace greatness.

There are two categories that people who are not emotionally content and/or mature generally fall into:
One category is those who have repressed emotions due to some religious or spiritual training in this life, or over many lives. They tend to have a strong mental focus, spend a lot of time in their mental body and deny emotion. They can be volatile and explosive and all they can do is attempt to manage those emotions that suddenly erupt in order to release the emotional pressure. These people will find it valuable to work with their inner child, sometimes having to use firm, loving discipline and at other times simply loving their inner child and bringing them into the heart where they are cherished and safe.  They have to work with and allow their emotional body to mature…a process that never fully occurred or was disrupted or distorted along their journey. A charged inner child aspect has not grown up to integrate the qualities of innocence and playfulness (‘be like the child’), into a mature, responsible, loving spiritual adult being. There is an inaccurate myth that the inner child is supposed to remain childish, without fear-based issues. An integrated spiritual being does not have any un-integrated aspect living within. Healing emotionally is growing up emotionally. Maturing emotionally is a crucial foundational component of spiritual maturity.   We cannot spiritualise matter when we are limited and hijacked by unhealed emotions, which take us away from our heart knowing.

The second category is where people have neutralized emotional interaction and effectively switched their emotions off and become emotionally numb. Their demeanour is somewhat melancholy, sad or even depressed. They have learned through current or past life training to kill out desire. For them, emotion and the ability to feel and express their feelings has become like a foreign language. The solution for these people is to turn that language switch back on and to embrace their life learning to enjoy, and so, vivify their emotional body.

Emotional maturity and living a life of true contentment means always having, as appropriate, the choice to be emotion-still, rather than being emotion-less which is often due to repression or neutralization. Someone who is emotionally mature can still the mind or the emotions at will and choose not to indulge in any fear-based emotion which leads to loss of consciousness. Their mind and emotions are at the service of spirit.  They can choose to express their emotions in a variety of colours and hues, to bring richness, depth, tempo and texture to living and serving. It enhances their pallet of empathy.  Our energetic vibrations and our aura, the air around us, are raised through expressions of joy, love, hope, compassion, appreciation and wonder. Emotion is a vibrant component of feeling. Fully feeling with loving respect and wonder is the language of sacredness.

Someone who is emotionally mature accepts responsibility for what they create, and uses the wisdom of hindsight without trying to undo the past. They reorient their consciousness and make attitudinal and behavioral changes. They do not subject themselves to tantrums, self-pity or an overly morbid or rigorous self-analysis. Emotional maturity means not withholding greatness but rather doing the best one can possibly do without arrogance, with humility. False modesty is the enemy of long-term maturity. Those who are emotionally mature choose greatness but do not expect others to choose greatness, as this is a display of arrogance. Self-talk is vitally important for someone who is emotionally mature and intelligent. If they have a “win”, i.e. some accomplishment, they are wise and protect and build on that success and therefore do not under-achieve. No one truly attains greatness through ‘whipping’ themselves.

Another hallmark of those with emotional maturity is when they feel that they are cruising and their process seems easy, they then place even more attention and energy on their spiritual practices and psychological introspection. Mental, emotional and spiritual maturity requires mutual interdependence, co-ordination and co-creation between all the bodies so they function as a synchronized whole, with each body serving each the other and serving the indwelling spirit. This means thinking as a tool to devise strategy when required; expressing emotion to enrich the living, being the eyes of the heart, and being still, poised and allowing when not actively engaged. When fully matured, the content of thought and emotion are chosen at will and can be ceased at will. For example, we may choose to feel gratitude, joy or whatever is required as sensed as a spirit in any moment, regardless of the current experience. Cleaning, centering, aligning and synchronizing our bodies of ‘self-absorbed’ patterns and immature states is now the spiritual work. Maturity means growing further and further into our potential.

Emotional maturity means loving the self yet being truly altruistic or self-less.  Love is not an emotional opinion; rather it is a measurable, tangible force.  One who is emotionally mature experiences all of life, uses their integrated bodies to transform those life ingredients into love and they emanate that love.

©The Insight Foundation
Michael King is the Co-Founder and CEO of the Insight Foundation www.theinsightfoundation.org.au